March President’s Message

[Harry Fullerton]Hello Gentlemen,

Spring has just about sprung. I am looking forward to the warmer weather and longer days. Our new location for meetings has been very successful. This coming meeting will feature a traditional Irish boiled dinner served by Club Café. The regular menu is available to those who may wish an alternative meal. In the next few months, we will be organizing the Ogunquit Trip. We are continuing to work with the Rhode Island and Connecticut chapters to organize a BBQ/Clambake at one of the state parks.

We will be marching in the Pride Parade this year and will have a bus to seat 15 people also. The theme is #Rainbow Resistance. For more info on Pride, see the bostonpride.org website. If you have any ideas and/or wish to participate in decorating the bus please let me know ASAP.

Jim Morgrage (from Club Café) participates in the annual Harbor to the Bay Bike ride to raise money for HIV prevention, research and education. Please see him if you wish to help in any way. Remember, he has been very good to us, so we should certainly return the favor. It is also a very important cause. See harbortothebay.org to learn more about the event.

Gary Gropman is holding his annual Mardi Gras-themed potluck at the Gropman museum and estate on March 24th. Please see the listing on page 5 for more details. Philip and I will be hosting a BBQ as soon as the weather is more agreeable. (Philip will do all the work, of course). Contact Norman Pelletier if you wish to host a potluck at your home. Our Host(ess) will help you every step of the way.

Each month in the Prologue we will feature a member who will share with us a story about their life and experiences. Some have written about their time with the Prime Timers and others are sharing more in-depth life experiences. All have been very interesting and some very surprising. Norman Pelletier’s article is featured this month (on page 2). If you wish to participate, please contact me.

Elections are upcoming in April, so look for the biographies and don’t forget to vote!

Upcoming Events

Hello Gentlemen,

Happy New Year!!! There are several new faces in our group. I’d like to ask everyone to make an extra effort to reach out, introduce yourself and welcome new members when you meet them. Assimilating into a new group can be daunting for some so we’d love to make it a little easier for new folks. We’ve all seen new guys come by meetings, sit quietly and then never return as we’re all caught up with chatting with the friends we usually associate with. This is an area where we have been weak in the past. We can do better. A hello or chat at a meeting or perhaps making the extra effort to invite them to a potluck, event or dinner would be helpful. Learning their name and introducing them around will help them feel more comfortable and invited.

We will be sharing pictures of club events in the Prologue and/or website soon so if you take photos, we’d love for you to share with other members. We will not post your photo if you do not want it. Please let us know if you do not want a photo in the Prologue. If you have not yet filled out a photo release form, please contact the office. Over the years, many of you have chatted about and shared interesting and important stories about your lives. If you’d like to write and share a story in the Prologue, please let Harry know. It can be about an experience as gay men, as seniors, an important life event or experience, your travels, your experiences with Prime Timers… We all have a story and we’d like to hear them!!!

The Mohegan Sun bus trip is February 24th (see below for details). The Hasty Pudding show is March 1st. Tickets are on sale already. Make sure you sign up!!! There are a few upcoming potlucks. Norman and Jim’s party is on February 10th. Gary Gropman’s Mardi Gras party will be on March 24th. As always, please contact Tony and Steve to set up a potluck event at your home. Thank you to Ben Gallo and Jim Sutfin for a fantastic party this past week.

We will not have a speaker at the March Meeting. Jim Morgrage and Club Café will be preparing a delicious Boiled Dinner for us in celebration of Saint Patrick’s Day. This will be $25 per person and you can sign up for this on the tear sheet now. We look forward to seeing you there!

Happy New Year, 2018!

Hello Gentlemen,

The New Year is upon us and I would like to thank all my friends who helped make 2017 a success for the Prime Timers. The volunteers are the backbone of this organization. In the coming year, we would love for other members to step up and show us what you can offer and assist with organizing events, activities and meetings. Suggestions are always welcome, but please pitch in and help out.

Thank you for all the positive feedback about the Holiday Party at Club Café. A great time was had by all. The Sister Santa Toy Drive was a big success. In addition to the toys for children in foster care, we raised quite a bit of money to help with the Sisters’ efforts. You should all be proud of your contributions. We are at our best when we can help others in our community when needed. Thanks again to Jim Morgrage for his great work and generous gifts to the club.

The History Project will do a presentation at our January meeting. If you have any memorabilia to donate they may be interested in please bring it in. Please see their website or more info on their mission.

    The History Project is a volunteer-driven organization focused on several important initiatives:

  • Conducting research on lesbians, gay men, bisexuals, and transgender people in Massachusetts
  • Preserving the documentary record of that community’s social and historical contributions
  • Providing a forum for educating the general public.

We are talking with the folks at Gay4Good about visiting us at one of our meetings to tell us about their organization.

In the pipeline we are working on a Casino trip, the Hasty Pudding Theatrical and are talking with the other New England chapters about ideas for a spring/summer gathering for the Rhode Island, Connecticut and Boston Prime Timers. Please contact Tony and Steve to organize a potluck at your home.

I am looking forward to new faces, fun and adventures in the coming year.

Happy Holidays!

The Holidays are upon us. The Thanksgiving Dinner at Club Café was a success. Jim Morgrage, as always, did a beautiful job. The Holiday dinner is just around the corner on December 10th 1-4 PM. The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence will be in attendance enjoying the time with us. They will also be collection donations for their sixth annual Sister Santa Holiday Drive. The Boston Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence are working with the community again this year to provide gifts to the less fortunate children who are being cared for by the Department of Children and Families and the Commonwealth of Massachusetts. Please bring an unwrapped non-violent toy or gift to the party. The Sisters will be happy to take your cash donation as well. Please visit their website at thebostonsisters.org/sister-santa-returns/ for more information.

2017 is just about over, so I’d like to thank you for a great year of fun and memories, especially those of you who volunteer your time and efforts to make it so. You are the backbone of this group. I’d love to see more members participate. Voicing opinions and ideas helps, but active participation is what will really keep this a great fun club.

In the coming New Year, we will be looking to grow our group with new outreach campaigns. We will be updating the webpage to make it more useful and user friendly. We will be creating new activities and events for you to enjoy, some with the other New England Prime Timer chapters. We are looking for more hosts for potlucks. A great group of people have formed to look for new and interesting speakers for our meetings. If you’d like to volunteer to join a new committee to reach to reach out to members who are under the weather please call Harry or Jim Buckley. We’d like to increase our presence in the 2018 Pride Parade, possibly with a float. In the past, our floats have been award-winning. Money constraints, parade rules and lack of volunteers have prevented us from entering floats in recent years but its time for the Prime Timers to show our community what we can do! As always, any ideas and help will be graciously accepted and greatly appreciated.

It has also been a challenging year for our community. The rights and freedoms we have gained over the past few years are being attacked and some are being reversed. It seems we take two steps forward and one back, but we will continue the battle and we will win. Remember it gets better and it will.

I’d like to remember our friends who have passed. Some of the gentlemen who have gone on to a better place left a lasting impact on our group and community. We thank them for their service and friendship and we hold them in our hearts and minds forever. These are big shoes to fill but some of our members have taken that challenge and we thank them for it.

I hope you all have a wonderful holiday and a Happy New Year!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Hello Gentlemen,

Summer has come to an end. The leaves are changing color and the weather is getting cooler. Holiday season is upon us. We are looking forward to spending our holidays with friends, enjoying their company and delicious meals. If you are able to host, please think about spending the day with some other members who may normally stay home alone, whether it be a smaller or larger group. We would love to see everyone have a place to go.

I hope everyone enjoyed the entertainment at last week’s meeting. Thanks to Elizabeth Anker and to Bob Kingston-Parrott for finding these talented singers for us. Again, if you know of anyone (group or individual) you’d like to see at a meeting please contact Harry or Bob.

Club Café will prepare a delicious turkey dinner during our November Meeting so come with an empty belly. You will find the Thanksgiving dinner on the tear sheet in this month’s Prologue. Thanks again to Tony and Steve for all their hard work in the past, preparing dinner for us.

The Halloween trip to Provincetown is days away as of this writing. Join us at the Mount Vernon on November 1st at 6 PM. Please see Harry or call (857) 544-3630 if you are interested in attending.

The Holiday Party will be at Club Café on December 10th. The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence will be collecting gifts for their Sister Santa toy drive. The drive benefits homeless children. Please open your hearts and wallets. Bring a non-violent gift if you can, but any donation will be graciously accepted also.

If you have any questions about any of the upcoming changes or events feel free to contact me at everharry@aol.com or (857) 544-3630.

Provincetown, Dining Out & Trips

Hello Gentlemen,

We’ve just had our first meeting at our new location in Club Café. It seems everyone enjoyed the new venue and Jim Morgrage once again took good care of us. If any of you have ideas or contacts for speakers for one of our meetings, please contact me or Bob Kingston-Parrott (see roster or contact page). Bob has been doing a great job helping but it is a difficult job to find new and interesting presenters.

Fall is now upon us and the annual Halloween invasion of Provincetown is a few weeks away. The reservation date was September 29th, but if you didn’t get a reservation in, you can contact the Inn directly. See September’s Prologue. The meet and greet cocktail hour with the other chapters will be Friday around 5 PM in the main lobby. Sister Bingo with the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence will be Saturday afternoon at the Inn. Expect lots of laughs and prizes to the winners.

Dinner will be Saturday night with the Costume Party immediately following. We’ve made many friends over the years who’ve supported us so we’d love to return the favor. Please join us every last Tuesday of the month at Club Café for the monthly dinner. Paul Fanizzi has been very generous to the Prime Timers for years. In return, there will be a group going to dinner Friday night in P-Town at Fanizzi’s on Commercial Street. His food is outstanding. All are welcome. Also on Friday night is The SistersHairspray Sing-Along fundraiser at the Crown & Anchor to benefit the Sister Santa Fund. Doors open at 7 PM and the show starts at 8 PM. All these folks have been very generous financially as well as with their time. Please show them love.

Tony and Steve have organized a bus trip to Stockbridge and the Norman Rockwell Museum on December 17th. Reserve early as the bus will accommodate 56 people. You may also contact them if you wish to hold a potluck at your home.

If you have any questions about any of the upcoming changes or events feel free to contact me at everharry@aol.com or (857) 544-3630.

Moving the Meeting Place & Cruise

Hello Gentlemen,

Our 30th Anniversary has come and gone. Participation is key to successful events and we could not have made the Boat Cruise the success it was without everyone who pitched in to help. I hope you all had as much fun as I did. Special thanks to our entertainment, Carol O’Shaughnessy and Tom, for the great tunes and laughs. Captain Jerry and his crew, as well as Ritas Catering did a fabulous job for us. Even Mother Nature behaved herself. It was a beautiful day.

Fall is here and we are looking forward to our annual invasion of Provincetown for Halloween as well as a Thanksgiving Dinner after our November meeting at Club Café. Tony and Steve will be able to sit and enjoy the meal with us this year and we thank them for all the beautiful dinners they prepared for us in the past. Enjoy your retirement, boys. However, they have worked hard to arrange a holiday coach trip to Stockbridge, home of the Norman Rockwell Museum.

Members have asked to bring back the rotating monthly dinners. Bob Kingston-Parrott is working on this. If you have a favorite T-accessible restaurant, please suggest them and we will look into having a dinner there. Call Harry or Bob. We will still have the Tuesday dinner at Club Café.

Remember, our next meeting will be held at Club Café on September 16th. The support group will meet from 1:30 to 2:30 PM and the social hour will begin at 2:30 PM. This month’s speaker will be Dr. Philip Daoust, M.D.

Please contact Tony and Steve if you wish to host a potluck. We’d love to see a few more on the calendar.

It’s membership dues time!!! Please make sure you send your payment into the office via tear sheet or at the next meeting.

If you have any questions about any of the upcoming changes or events feel free to contact me at everharry@aol.com or (857) 544-3630.

Summer & the Anniversary Cruise

Summer is upon us. Pride month has just passed and we enjoyed one of the most successful parades in recent years. The turnout was bigger than we’ve seen in a long time and the energy from the crowd as incredible. Thank you to all who participated and marched with the Prime Timers group.

We live in one of the most beautiful cities in America, if not the world, with an abundance of activities to experience and enjoy. Potlucks large or small are a wonderful way to meet new people. Contact Tony and Steve to arrange one at your home. Make some new connections, meet some new friends.

The Interest Profile you filled in when you joined the Prime Timers identifies members who have common interests. Frank LaPiana has been incredible posting to our Facebook about all the goings-on around Boston. Use the monthly meeting, Facebook page and webpage or pick up the phone to reach out and make some new friends. Get out and enjoy this beautiful city and all it has to offer.

The Anniversary Cruise will take place on August 20th. We have a total of 115 spots available to us. Tickets have already started selling so please contact the office and get your payment in ASAP. Don’t procrastinate and be left out. It will be a wonderful night. Tickets are $40 and parking is available in The Boston Harbor Hotel Garage for $14.

If you have anything you’d like in the Prologue (ads, events, or to reach out) contact Swift Lane at prologue@bostonpt.org.

A Little of This & A Little of That

We are halfway through what might be the winter of our discontent for some, given the weather and the political climate. No matter what, we can weather whatever storms come our way because we have each other for support, interesting diversions and good old-fashioned common sense. Our collective experience tells us that whatever it is we are going through—just hang on, things will change, just like our New England weather. Winter can be a depressing time with limited sunshine, short days and longer nights, particularly if you are alone. But you don’t have to be alone or a little down. You have friends and contacts to lift the mood. Take out our membership roster and call a few folks, make some plans for lunch or dinner, go see a movie or just get together for a cup of coffee. Spring is just around the corner and we will all be able to get back out & about.

Speaking of just around the corner, we have elections coming up in April and we need you to step up to the plate to replace outgoing board members. There are currently five board seats expiring with three of those board members running again. We are also in need of a newsletter editor. John’s last edition will be in April. My position as president expires in April, and although my seat has another year to go as a board member, after much thought, I will be resigning.

I have too many upcoming projects and limited time to give to a board position. These projects have come about through my networking with other organizations as a board member. This has been very rewarding. So there is plenty of opportunity for your hands on involvement to steer the club into new adventures. Just because three board members will throw their hats back into the ring does not mean they cannot be challenged. Step up and shake things up! We need new ideas and fresh energy. Over the past two years, I have heard ideas and complaints from some of you. Now is the time to put some of those ideas in motion and give solutions to some of those complaints. I have heard that being a board member is not a good experience and that board meetings are contentious. That is far from the truth. The board has been running smoothly with nothing but cooperation and good fellowship. This is your club. You only get back out of it as much as you put into it.

Speaking of upcoming changes, we are moving forward with a new web service provider. In the very near future you will be given the new web address and the webpage itself will be revamped. Please stay tuned. For approximately seven years, Charlie Briggs and Steve Lord have been our webpage gurus, and have provided us with those services. Steve also traveled into the office to send out the Prologue e-mail blast on a monthly basis in a very timely manner. We thank both of them very much for all that they have done for us.

We have a few things coming up that can all look forward to. There is the Hasty Pudding Theatricals on March 2nd. The cutoff date is February 10th, so you need to get your tear sheet in to us now. Tony is cooking up another after-meeting meal in honor of St. Patrick’s Day on March 18th. As for this month, The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence will be joining us to talk about your sexual health—I told them that all of you were active—so lie if you aren’t! They are also going to be painting one of your faces. Who wants to volunteer? And we have dining out at Club Café on February 28th.

I am heading off to Florida for these next few months to honor my contractual obligations at the Florida Renaissance Festival, leaving you in the very capable hands of your Vice President, Harry Fullerton. I will let you know what the Fort Lauderdale chapter is up to in my next column and give you an update on our snowbird members down there. Oh, and Happy Valentine’s Day! Hug a Prime Timer if you haven’t already hugged one yet today.

Election Thoughts from the President

Once again it is that time of year where we fill the seats of Board members whose terms are expiring. My seat, along with those of Harry Fullerton and Larry Vitale will be up for election. We had been a nine member board, but because of work commitments, one member resigned, leaving us with eight members. The by-laws state that there should be either a seven or nine member panel. If we have enough candidates to fill nine slots, we will continue with a nine member board. Otherwise, we will go with a seven member panel. Larry has decided because of time constraints, etc., he will not be running. Harry and I will run.

This is the time to make your voice heard and your vote count. Over my years on the Board, I have heard complaints as well as compliments for what we have done for you. I have heard some great ideas and some not so good. But the one thing in common with both is that those who have made suggestions have not stepped up to the plate to help implement them with a few exceptions. Now is your chance. Throw your hat into the ring and make those suggestions come to fruition. For the good of the club, it could use your help and ideas for activities, speakers, events and fun in general. In fact, you don’t have to be a Board member to head up a committee and make things happen. Don’t just be a critic and complainer—offer a solution to whatever the problem is you feel needs addressing and help us correct it.

Last month those at the membership meeting participated in a “brainstorming” session and the results can be read elsewhere in this edition of the Prologue. There are some problem areas that need to be addressed, and will be. But once again, we look to you to provide some input and solutions. This is your organization and in order to keep it vibrant and truly alive, we need an active membership. The more you put into being part of this club, the more you will get out of it.

I would like to take this opportunity to thank Larry Vitale for his service to Boston Prime Timers, on and off the Board. He has provided valuable input and countless hours of work to the organization. I would also like to thank my fellow Board members for all the hard work they do and the criticism they take for pouring their heart & soul into a volunteer job. I am also grateful that I have been able to serve as your President for the past year. I have met a lot of nice guys and I look forward to meeting many more either as a Board member or as a Boston Prime Timer.